I always hate it when some horrible or sad happens to an athlete or an entertainer and they say..”I guess this puts everything in perspective now”, like somehow we forgot that people continue to die or get sick or have accidents because we have FOOTBALL or LOST on TV or Rocky IVX – Fighting for his LIFE!.
Most of us are aware that this is perspective to be had on a daily basis. Shit happens. We have financial problems because of unexpected damn car repairs. Our washing machine breaks. Our body breaks and the hospital bills mount up.
Even if we know all this, it always hurts when a friend who is too young to die, dies. When a tumor that sneaks into his brain like a dream and grows and grows until, surprise, lights out. No perspective I have can understand why that happens. Yeah, I know the words, and i understand that disease is part of an imperfect world, but perspective, hell no. Not supposed to happen.
I’m driving to Texas tonight with some friends to attend my friend Nick’s funeral. Nick was 51 when he died yesterday leaving behind an 11 year old son and a wonderful wife. Nick fought this damn tumor and kept alive by sheer willpower for months after it would have felled most people.
Nick was part of my life when we were saving the world in New York back in the 70s. We didn’t save the world, Brooklyn, or 531 Dumont where we lived. But we did make some of the best friends a person could ever have (including my wife)…it’s the kind of thing that happens when you are social workers hellbent on doing something good…it always surprises you when a different good happens.
Nick had a great life. People from all over the United States are on their way to say farewell. I’m just lucky to have known him, and that’s my real perspective here.
See you at the end of the week.